Even the most charmed of couples can go through phases of being not so great. Whether it's a major, known issue, or you're just a bit out of sorts with each other for awhile, no relationship is immune. The good news is, it doesn't mean the end. And it doesn't mean things won't get back to good.
The bad news? When you're the one who's actually in the middle of a malfunctioning twosome, it's really hard to see that things will get better. When that's the case, it can be easy to lose your head. I mean, we're only human. We're weird animals. And when something that is dear to us, like a love, is threatened, we'll do some crazy things in the name of saving it.
I get it. I've been there. I'm serious. And to prove it, here is my handy little sampling of save-the-relationship maneuvers that either I've tried or have had tried on me...and please remember that these are warnings, not suggestions! Hint: I did not do the baby thing. Promise.
Babies
There is just so much wrong with this it's hard to know where to start. That it even needs to be mentioned is just sad. It happens though, too often. People get scared and think that an addition to the family will bring them closer together as a couple, even if that means tricking their partner into an "accidental" pregnancy. It will do no such thing; and using an innocent to try to patch your relationship? Abhorrent!
Invade your partner's privacy
"I know that if I sneak a peak at his email and text messages I'll gain some insight into what he's thinking. If I can do that I can fix all our problems". Are you crazy?? Besides possibly breaking the law this is bound to get you broken up. Deliberately snooping through someone's private business is never okay.
Checking up on a partner by surreptitiously rifling through his communications is a road that goes straight to a freak out. If you find something chances are it'll be inadmissible in court ('cause what you're doing is probably illegal) and you'll be labeled a snoop. If you find nothing, you'll still be a snoop, and a sneaky one at that.
Moving in together
When the idea of facing your problems becomes a downer (and let's face it, who looks forward to that), the natural response is often to become physically closer. So the couple will move in together. It's an illogical, if understandable, response that does nothing to solve the underlying issues in your relationship.
Understandable because you figure moving in together is one way of staying close to your partner. But guess what, your problems are going to follow you wherever you go. Though the change of scenery may provide a temporary respite, when your problems resurface, and the will, you now have the added responsibility, and complication, of a shared lease or mortgage.
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